Question to Spicy Gears Experts - I Am 24 and have not had sex in more than 10 year.I decided to wait for the right partner. Recently I have been feeling wet/horny and I thought buying a vibe, ultimate rabbit, will stimulate me and relieve the urge,
but oh my the experience was quite uncomfortable and almost painful. The thing is too big for me but it is only 5. I get stimulation to orgasm from rubbing the clit with my fingers with silk pants on but I have never had vaginal stimulations. Any suggestions.

It is very natural for you to be feeling sexual urges and the desire to satisfy them. Using a sex toy, such as the ultimate rabbit, is a great way to experience your body’s range of sensual and sexual feelings. It will also help you in discovering what you like, the types of touch you enjoy and how your body responds, building confidence in your sexual self and readying you for when you do enter into an intimate relationship.

Most women experience heightened pleasure through clitoral stimulation. The clitoris is packed with nerve endings with the sole purpose of sexual pleasure. On the other hand, the vagina has very few nerve endings compared to the clitoris and other areas of your genitila. Also, it takes time (10-30 minutes depending on the woman) for a woman to become fully sexually aroused, to the point where the vagina swells, lubricates and is ready for penetration.

What I recommend is that you take your time. Move the vibrator along other parts of your body to include your legs, inner thighs, breasts, abdomen, then slowly toward your vulva, inner and outer lips (labia), then your clitoris. Give yourself time to build up the sexual excitement before attempting to penetrate your vagina and include clitoral stimulation during any penetration. These steps can result in you experiencing powerful sexual sensations and orgasm! Enjoy!!

Question answered by Spicy Gears Sex Therapist Lynne Santiago, MS, LMHC